1. Fears God. Some of the ways you can tell
if a young man fears God is by his language and how he treats other people.
Does he treat them with respect? If not, why not? We as human beings are made
in the image of God, and respecting people ultimately shows a heart that
reverences the One whom we reflect.
2. Is not afraid to love. That may sound
like a no-brainer, but a lot of young men today are afraid of commitment, and
the young lady ends up chasing the young man. What we need today are more young
men who are not afraid of being real, authentic, and committed to a young lady
in a relationship. We need men who are not afraid to love.
3. Can admit his faults, his mistakes, and when he's hurt you. Ruth
Bell Graham made the statement, "A good marriage is the union of two
forgivers." The reason is because you're going to hurt one another over
and over again during your lifetime together. If you don't know how to ask for
forgiveness and give forgiveness, you're never going to have a great marriage.
The growth of your marriage will be stunted early on.
4. Can control his passions.
We live in an age that has been invaded by pornography. The world sends a
message that you can have it all and can satisfy yourself. I would want my
daughters to date a young man who is fully in charge of his passion and can
control his desire for the opposite sex.
5. Honors his parents. In the Ten Commandments, God tells us to
honor our parents that our lives may be long and it may be well with us.
Wouldn't you want to select a man whose life has a sense of well being in God's
favor? I have heard it said that if you want to see how a young man will treat
you, see how he treats his mother. I'd take that a step further—how does he
honor both his mother and his father? Does he speak well of them or is he angry
with them? Does he refuse to speak about them at all? What's going on between a
young man and his parents is very important.
6. Is in the process
of becoming a leader who knows how to serve. Being the head of a home and
having so much authority and responsibility demands a servant spirit and
self-denial. If a young man doesn't know how to deny himself on behalf of
another person, giving up his personal rights, goals, and dreams, I would
question whether he would know how to create a family over a lifetime.
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