For nearly two centuries, Beethoven's death was a mystery. The famous musician suffered from irritability, depression, and abdominal pain. His dying wish was that his illness would be discovered so that "the world may be reconciled to me after my death."
In 1994, two Americans launched a study to determine the
cause of Beethoven's end. Chemical analysis of a strand of his hair showed his
killer—lead poisoning.1
More than likely, it was a little poison in everyday
activities that took his life. It could have come from drinking out of lead
lined cups or having dinner on a lead lined plate—both common household items
in that day. Or perhaps it came from eating contaminated fish or even the
extensive consumption of wine. It didn't come in one lump sum, but the lead
killed him slowly and quietly—one little bit of poison at a time.
That's also how bitterness destroys a marriage. It stores
itself in the soul, and slowly poisons the one who carries it. It's a blade
meant for another that eventually severs the hand that tightly conceals it.
Recently,there is a witnessed of what a bitter wife does to a
relationship. The problems with her husband are real, and her anger is
justified. However, what keeps their marriage from healing is not only the
problems that he has to overcome, but also the prideful bitterness she guards
in her heart.
Little by little, day by day, she has allowed this
bitterness to poison her. Her husband will do something disappointing, and
instead of confronting the problem, she silently holds it against him. He
continues to make the same mistakes, and she continues to harbor her
resentment.
This pattern has gone on for years, and now the love she
once felt has numbed and hardened her heart. Recently she walked out on their
marriage wearing a list of her husband's transgressions as her armor.
Reflecting back on his behavior, she nurses her wounds with words that assure
her that their marriage was a mistake—"I knew it all along," she
says.
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