Marriage is from Christ , in Christ , by Christ. Many single
people who are anticipating marriage ask, "How can I be sure that I will
marry the right person God has for me?" The people who ask this with an
honest heart, willing to accept God's choice, and willing to do His will,
usually receive guidance from God.
But the person who wants God's stamp of
approval on his or her own choice may be headed for trouble. The reason is
because you will always want the person whom God has for you, but the person
that you may want may not be whom the Lord has chosen. Billy Graham's wife said
she would have married the wrong man four times if God had given her the person
she thought was right for her. She found the right person because she wanted
God's best, and He kept her from making the wrong choice.
1.God has made somebody just for you.
The biblical pattern for marriage is Adam and Eve (Gen.
2:18-25). Jesus declared this pattern in Matt 19:4-6, that is, there is one
woman for one man. The woman was created for the man, not the man for the woman
(1 Cor 11:7-9). This doesn't mean that woman is a lesser person than man, but
speaks concerning the wife's role in marriage. The Adam and Eve pattern is a
certain woman was created as a help meet for the man, and God said it was very
good (Gen. 1:31). Out of this world of five billion people, how can you
possibly find the right mate? Genesis 24 tells an interesting story about how
God gave Rebecca to Isaac, although we do not suggest that any girl who waters
your camels is the right one for you. What we do know is this--God is the one
who made your spouse-to-be and He is the only one who knows who it is. If a
person is going to find the right mate, then God must be involved in bringing
the two together.
We can't search out the entire world, trying to find the
right one completely on our own. You would have better luck looking for a
needle in a haystack that is 20 miles high. Instead, you need to learn to trust
God and let Him bring you together as Adam rested and God brought Eve to him
(Gen. 2:21-22). you are seeking God first in your life, then it will be
impossible for you to miss the person whom God has for you (Matt 6:32-33, Psalm
34:10, 37:3-5, Prov. 3:5-6). Psalms 84:11 says, "No good thing does He
withhold from those who walk uprightly." Proverbs 18:22 adds," He who
finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord." Of
course, God can and does bring the two right people together many times even
when neither are seeking God. But many people miss what God has for them when
they turn to their own way.
2.God has a right timing.
It's possible to find the right person, but marry at the
wrong time. If you rush into marriage too quickly, it could bring trouble into
the marriage that you would have avoided if you had waited. We want our cake
and we want it now. Never mind the fact that it hasn't been cooked yet. Psalm
37:7 tells us to "rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him."
3.Marry a Person who fear God.
When two people marry, it is not just two bodies that come
together--but two bodies, two minds, and two spirits (1 Thess. 5:23). If your
spirits are not in harmony, then you will likely be out of harmony mentally,
physically, and socially as well. If you marry someone who is not a Christian,
you will have two different perspectives on life, which will affect nearly
every decision that you will make. A Christian should only marry another
believer because this is God's command (1 Cor 7:39, 2 Cor 6:14-16).
4.Both man and woman should be in agreement.
Sometimes one person tries to push the other person into
marriage. Warning! Warning! If this is happening, the best thing to do is back
off. Either the person is not the right person, the timing is wrong, or
somebody's mind is not convinced. Marriage is a decision where both parties
freely commit themselves to each other. If two people can't be in agreement
about whether or not to marry, then how will they ever be in agreement
concerning the thousands of decisions they will make after they are married?
Amos 3:3--"Can two walk together except they be in agreement?"
Obviously, the answer is no.
5.When in doubt, don't!
If you don't know for sure whether to marry a person, then
don't do it. Romans 14:23 says whatever is not from faith is sin. Marriage
should always bring a happy anticipation and an assurance, not a fearful
questioning of whether or not the marriage will make it
6.Make sure you are right for the other person.
While you are waiting for God to bring your future spouse to
you, make sure you are preparing yourself to be the kind of spouse you want
your mate to be. I have known of many men who want to marry virgins, but those
same men don't want to wait until marriage to have sex. Some people want their
spouses to be trim and in good physical shape, but they won't keep in shape
themselves. Are you ready to honorably present yourself to your future spouse,
or are you only thinking about how he or she will look? Preparing yourself is
an act of faith that God will bring the right person to you...
God bles you.
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